oh my.
Psychology's biggest debate.
it's a combination, k guys?! calm down.
but really.
this is actually pretty interesting stuff...
There are twin studies that show identical twins (that means they're genetically the EXACT same person) being separated at birth, raised with no knowledge of each other, and later scoring similarly on all kinds of tests including intellectual, personality, and more. There are even freaky cases where these distant natural clones married people with the same name, had the same number of kids, named their dogs the same thing, worked similar type jobs, etc. These cases, along with those of adopted infants growing up extremely different from non-biological siblings, point to the power of nature. What's more is that they point to the expendability of parents. What I mean is...they don't have as great of an impact on their children's lives as they sometimes think they do.
I've been reading a lot of interesting stuff on this matter. I am a pysc major after all ;) It's interesting to look at the arguments and think about the consequences. If parenting doesn't really affect kids that much than even kids who were abused should be able to overcome it in adulthood and move on from their pasts. At least that's what Martin Seligman seems to say in this quote: "If you want to blame your parents for your own adult problems, you are entitled to blame the genes they gave you, but you are not entitled – by any facts I know – to blame the way they treated you… We are not prisoners of our past." This also colors the way we view parenting. In some ways it relieves a lot of stress, but in others it could make parents feel unnecessary and unimportant. If nothing they do really affects their kids then why do anything at all? Why even have kids? Certainly this attitude is not right at all.
And what do we make of the Bible verses about training up a child in the way he should go so that when he is old he will not depart from it? Or even the Biblical fact that sparing the rod spoils the child?
Like I said, It's a combination. And God is sovereign over all. He has the final say and He can manipulate any factors in our lives to create the outcome He so desires. Personally, I'm so thankful for the careful thought my parents put into raising me. I rather like how I've turned out and I see how they had a lot to do with that. Of course there are things they did wrong and there are things they probably wanted to teach me that I will leave behind. I will grow and change and become my own person but I can never forget the base they gave me for growing and becoming that person. Thanks, Mom and Dad. I appreciate you.
Psychology's biggest debate.
it's a combination, k guys?! calm down.
but really.
this is actually pretty interesting stuff...
There are twin studies that show identical twins (that means they're genetically the EXACT same person) being separated at birth, raised with no knowledge of each other, and later scoring similarly on all kinds of tests including intellectual, personality, and more. There are even freaky cases where these distant natural clones married people with the same name, had the same number of kids, named their dogs the same thing, worked similar type jobs, etc. These cases, along with those of adopted infants growing up extremely different from non-biological siblings, point to the power of nature. What's more is that they point to the expendability of parents. What I mean is...they don't have as great of an impact on their children's lives as they sometimes think they do.
I've been reading a lot of interesting stuff on this matter. I am a pysc major after all ;) It's interesting to look at the arguments and think about the consequences. If parenting doesn't really affect kids that much than even kids who were abused should be able to overcome it in adulthood and move on from their pasts. At least that's what Martin Seligman seems to say in this quote: "If you want to blame your parents for your own adult problems, you are entitled to blame the genes they gave you, but you are not entitled – by any facts I know – to blame the way they treated you… We are not prisoners of our past." This also colors the way we view parenting. In some ways it relieves a lot of stress, but in others it could make parents feel unnecessary and unimportant. If nothing they do really affects their kids then why do anything at all? Why even have kids? Certainly this attitude is not right at all.
And what do we make of the Bible verses about training up a child in the way he should go so that when he is old he will not depart from it? Or even the Biblical fact that sparing the rod spoils the child?
Like I said, It's a combination. And God is sovereign over all. He has the final say and He can manipulate any factors in our lives to create the outcome He so desires. Personally, I'm so thankful for the careful thought my parents put into raising me. I rather like how I've turned out and I see how they had a lot to do with that. Of course there are things they did wrong and there are things they probably wanted to teach me that I will leave behind. I will grow and change and become my own person but I can never forget the base they gave me for growing and becoming that person. Thanks, Mom and Dad. I appreciate you.
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