"How's married life?" - This is the most popular question to ask Rachel Miller.
Well for those of you that haven't gotten around to asking, and for those of you who have gotten the "Super-duper!" response, I will now elaborate.
It seriously is super-duper. I'm loving every minute. I feel so blessed to get to share my life with Steven and have him share his with me. It's been 67 days now and I still feel like a little girl who's reward for particularly good behavior is to have a friend sleep over. Wait, really? Again! I get to spend another day with you?! Yessssss!
Married life is better than all my expectations and any of my dreams. Before getting married it seems like married women (most of them strangers) all of a sudden want to warn you that for them, marriage isn't what they thought it would be; that it's hard work, etc. So I tried to lower my expectations. Before we were married Steven and I were reading lots of marriage books and discussing married life. We decided we were probably too realistic and self-aware to really have that 'honeymoon phase' in which everything is just perfect. But here we are two months in and still thinking everything is perfect! It has been a complete joy to converse, make decisions, and do life together. Even the few (and I mean FEW!) moments in which we find ourselves annoyed have been precious and amusing to me. I like to think this isn't a 'honeymoon phase' but real life still untainted by hurt and sin against each other. If we proceed with caution and continue to give our relationship as much attention as we have in the past two months, I see no reason why married life won't continue to be like this. Clear, honest communication about your own thoughts, feelings, and expectations as well as a listening ear and a servant's heart are the ingredients in my recipe for a happy marriage. As soon as you have a thought about what need or desire of yours isn't being met, turn it around and find some need or desire of your spouse's that you can meet. Look for ways to serve your spouse and you'll stop thinking about the ways you wish you were being served. Of course it probably helps to have a spouse who is as conscientious as mine is...
I am blessed.
Praise God.
Well for those of you that haven't gotten around to asking, and for those of you who have gotten the "Super-duper!" response, I will now elaborate.
It seriously is super-duper. I'm loving every minute. I feel so blessed to get to share my life with Steven and have him share his with me. It's been 67 days now and I still feel like a little girl who's reward for particularly good behavior is to have a friend sleep over. Wait, really? Again! I get to spend another day with you?! Yessssss!
Married life is better than all my expectations and any of my dreams. Before getting married it seems like married women (most of them strangers) all of a sudden want to warn you that for them, marriage isn't what they thought it would be; that it's hard work, etc. So I tried to lower my expectations. Before we were married Steven and I were reading lots of marriage books and discussing married life. We decided we were probably too realistic and self-aware to really have that 'honeymoon phase' in which everything is just perfect. But here we are two months in and still thinking everything is perfect! It has been a complete joy to converse, make decisions, and do life together. Even the few (and I mean FEW!) moments in which we find ourselves annoyed have been precious and amusing to me. I like to think this isn't a 'honeymoon phase' but real life still untainted by hurt and sin against each other. If we proceed with caution and continue to give our relationship as much attention as we have in the past two months, I see no reason why married life won't continue to be like this. Clear, honest communication about your own thoughts, feelings, and expectations as well as a listening ear and a servant's heart are the ingredients in my recipe for a happy marriage. As soon as you have a thought about what need or desire of yours isn't being met, turn it around and find some need or desire of your spouse's that you can meet. Look for ways to serve your spouse and you'll stop thinking about the ways you wish you were being served. Of course it probably helps to have a spouse who is as conscientious as mine is...
I am blessed.
Praise God.
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