"How are you feeling?"
^ the most similar part of pregnancies #1 and #2 is probably this question.
I'd say I feel better this time around. But I'm pretty sure that's only because I haven't been paying any attention to this pregnancy.
YOU KNOW BETTER
1. This time around you know that it's better to drink that cup (or two) of coffee than deny yourself the energy, mood lift, happiness, warmth, etc. just because of the slight possibility that it might make the baby a little hyper. or whatever other side effects they claim caffeine has... Same goes for the deli meat. And the sip of wine. And the yummy cheeses. You've learned that there are lots of things that are going to mess up your kid. You've accepted that. And if that second cup of chai makes it a little bit worse, so be it. You needed those 6 minutes of solace while your toddler ripped all the pages out of her books.
2. During your first pregnancy, the doc was constantly going over appropriate weight gain and reminding your that you're not actually eating for two. You listened. This time, you both know better. The doc hasn't brought it up and you haven't checked the scale since you saw those two pink lines. If you're hungry, you eat. You don't have the extra brain space to remember what else you've eaten today and make sure you're not over your calorie limit. Nor do you have the will power to deny yourself the simple pleasures in life. You don't ask for a lot, but when you ask for another piece of pizza, someone had better hand it over.
YOU'RE USED TO IT
3. You hardly notice when people touch your belly. Your toddler is constantly touching you - sometimes quite inappropriately - and pointing out all your bumps, bruises, scratches, freckles... When people comment that you're "all baby," "about to pop!" "getting huge!" or even that you're "still quite small," you don't think twice about it let alone focusing on it for the next 4 days the way you did the first time around.
4. The first time around you felt like a stranger in your own body. By now you've come to accept that this is the new and improved you. You might feel worse about it if you had the time to actually check the mirror more than once every other month.
5. Are you uncomfortable? Yes. But you've been uncomfortable for so long--what with toddlers smashing books in your face, stepping on your toes, jumping up and knocking into your chin, spilling random liquids and bodily fluids on you, etc. etc. etc.--that a little heartburn, extra weight, and regular pummeling of your organs just blends right in.
YOU'RE DISTRACTED
6. You're already so sleep deprived that you hardly notice a little extra fatigue. You can't remember if you woke up again because you had to pee or because the [not so baby] baby was crying. And you can't tell if you can't get comfortable to fall asleep because you're starting to resemble a beached whale or because your first born is hogging your bed.
7. Similarly, you're too busy chasing after the future big sister to realize that you're nauseated. Or out of breath. Or in need of a few Tums.
8. You're so distracted you hardly remember you're pregnant at all. The handy part is that your husband forgets about it too. So when you finally remember (or she reminds you with a good jab in the ribs) and realize that you must.have.tater.tots.now. he doesn't complain a bit about the special trip to the store just to buy tater tots.
9. During your first pregnancy, you had time to daydream about your new baby in between naps and [healthy] snacks. You arranged and rearranged the nursery and washed and rewashed all her clothes. You wondered and worried about if you would be a good mom, if poop would make you puke, how you would handle discipline, where you would find your Anne Sullivan if she got sick and became blind and deaf. This time around, your baby should be thankful you remembered she'd need a place to sleep. You'll get the clothes out of storage when you start feeling contractions. And you have no time to wonder about any of the "what if's" because your oldest just spilled her drink and/or peed on the floor instead of in the potty.
10. PEEING EVERY HOUR IS STILL ANNOYING. But you're potty training your toddler (because two in diapers is two too many) so it kind of comes in handy to make trips to the potty together.
*Husband Quotes*
"E, mommy can't hold you anymore. she's too fat."
He's had a lot recently so I'll give you two.
Husband: You know what's really annoying?
Me: What?
Husband: Having to pee when you're in the middle of something.
Me: -_- ...Try being pregnant.
^ the most similar part of pregnancies #1 and #2 is probably this question.
I'd say I feel better this time around. But I'm pretty sure that's only because I haven't been paying any attention to this pregnancy.
YOU KNOW BETTER
1. This time around you know that it's better to drink that cup (or two) of coffee than deny yourself the energy, mood lift, happiness, warmth, etc. just because of the slight possibility that it might make the baby a little hyper. or whatever other side effects they claim caffeine has... Same goes for the deli meat. And the sip of wine. And the yummy cheeses. You've learned that there are lots of things that are going to mess up your kid. You've accepted that. And if that second cup of chai makes it a little bit worse, so be it. You needed those 6 minutes of solace while your toddler ripped all the pages out of her books.
2. During your first pregnancy, the doc was constantly going over appropriate weight gain and reminding your that you're not actually eating for two. You listened. This time, you both know better. The doc hasn't brought it up and you haven't checked the scale since you saw those two pink lines. If you're hungry, you eat. You don't have the extra brain space to remember what else you've eaten today and make sure you're not over your calorie limit. Nor do you have the will power to deny yourself the simple pleasures in life. You don't ask for a lot, but when you ask for another piece of pizza, someone had better hand it over.
YOU'RE USED TO IT
3. You hardly notice when people touch your belly. Your toddler is constantly touching you - sometimes quite inappropriately - and pointing out all your bumps, bruises, scratches, freckles... When people comment that you're "all baby," "about to pop!" "getting huge!" or even that you're "still quite small," you don't think twice about it let alone focusing on it for the next 4 days the way you did the first time around.
4. The first time around you felt like a stranger in your own body. By now you've come to accept that this is the new and improved you. You might feel worse about it if you had the time to actually check the mirror more than once every other month.
5. Are you uncomfortable? Yes. But you've been uncomfortable for so long--what with toddlers smashing books in your face, stepping on your toes, jumping up and knocking into your chin, spilling random liquids and bodily fluids on you, etc. etc. etc.--that a little heartburn, extra weight, and regular pummeling of your organs just blends right in.
YOU'RE DISTRACTED
6. You're already so sleep deprived that you hardly notice a little extra fatigue. You can't remember if you woke up again because you had to pee or because the [not so baby] baby was crying. And you can't tell if you can't get comfortable to fall asleep because you're starting to resemble a beached whale or because your first born is hogging your bed.
7. Similarly, you're too busy chasing after the future big sister to realize that you're nauseated. Or out of breath. Or in need of a few Tums.
8. You're so distracted you hardly remember you're pregnant at all. The handy part is that your husband forgets about it too. So when you finally remember (or she reminds you with a good jab in the ribs) and realize that you must.have.tater.tots.now. he doesn't complain a bit about the special trip to the store just to buy tater tots.
9. During your first pregnancy, you had time to daydream about your new baby in between naps and [healthy] snacks. You arranged and rearranged the nursery and washed and rewashed all her clothes. You wondered and worried about if you would be a good mom, if poop would make you puke, how you would handle discipline, where you would find your Anne Sullivan if she got sick and became blind and deaf. This time around, your baby should be thankful you remembered she'd need a place to sleep. You'll get the clothes out of storage when you start feeling contractions. And you have no time to wonder about any of the "what if's" because your oldest just spilled her drink and/or peed on the floor instead of in the potty.
10. PEEING EVERY HOUR IS STILL ANNOYING. But you're potty training your toddler (because two in diapers is two too many) so it kind of comes in handy to make trips to the potty together.
*Husband Quotes*
"E, mommy can't hold you anymore. she's too fat."
He's had a lot recently so I'll give you two.
Husband: You know what's really annoying?
Me: What?
Husband: Having to pee when you're in the middle of something.
Me: -_- ...Try being pregnant.
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